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Apr 2, 2024 · 'I just broke up with my ex. What do I do?' This is a common reaction to the loss of a significant other. Here's what you might be feeling and a few strategies for coping.
- Elizabeth Plumptre
Jan 19, 2024 · Sherri Gordon. Updated on January 19, 2024. Reviewed by. Carly Snyder, MD. Jamie Grill / Getty Images. Table of Contents. View All. Acknowledge Your Feelings. Remove Reminders of Your Ex. Find Closure. Make a List of Your Ex's Faults. Take Care of Yourself.
- Sherri Gordon
- Michelle Konstantinovsky
- Decide if you should go no-contact. Share on Pinterest. One of the trickiest parts of navigating post-breakup reality is figuring out whether you actually want to stay in touch.
- Consider avoiding common stomping grounds. Do you two frequent the same grocery store? Have a favorite brunch spot that you used to hit up together? Even if you don’t run into your ex in the frozen food aisle, the potential for encountering emotionally charged sights and sounds is a big burden to bear when you’re freshly single.
- Accept that it’s over. One of the biggest mistakes I made after my first breakup (to be fair, I was 17) was convincing myself that I could convince him to regret his decision.
- Accept the sad, bad, and blank emotions. There’s the A-word again: “acceptance.” Yeah, it’s an annoying term to hear when you’re in the throes of emotional turmoil, but granting yourself permission to feel terrible, wonderful, indifferent, and everything in between is important to the grieving and healing process.
- Don’t rush into making a conversation without being emotionally stable. Sometimes, it takes time to be back on track once you’re hurt. The moment you’re healed and you don’t label your ex as an enemy anymore then you’ll know that talking to your ex won’t be an issue.
- When you are healed: start by initiating a text. What is worth considering before sending a post-breakup text is their experience, where they are at the moment emotionally, or if their feelings have changed through this time.
- Should I call my ex now? If you’ve been working on yourself after the breakup and your ex has been interested in you here and there, first you should start with a text.
- It’s normal to have a moment of weakness while talking. It is pretty common for everyone to have a moment of weakness when in contact with someone they loved/love after a long time.
Mar 18, 2021 · The stages of a breakup aren't unlike the stages of grief, requiring both people to move through phases like denial, anger, and eventually acceptance. Here's what to expect when working through a breakup, plus how long it can really take, according to relationship experts.
- Remember that you are human. “Heartbreak causes major physiological and neuro-chemical changes, and knowing that these changes are normal and expected will help you feel less alone in how you feel.”
- Cry. Don’t hold back your tears if you feel them bubbling up. “When we allow ourselves to cry, we feel better due to the release of pent-up emotions.”
- Breathe. “Close your eyes, and slow your breath so that the length of your inhale matches the length of your exhale. Count to six as you breathe in, and six as you breathe out.”
- Hydrate. If you're crying often, this is especially important. Be sure to drink plenty of water.
Jan 17, 2022 · But in those first few brutal days and weeks, you've got every right to feel inconsolable. In time, though, you can move onward and upward. Here are 20 ways to start feeling better fast, according to experts.
