Ourselves To Know, published in 1960, is the tenth novel by American writer John O'Hara. It tells the life story of Robert Millhouser, an aspiring painter in youth who retreats into a life of reserved bachelorhood, but marries a much-younger woman in middle age and murders her in an act of domestic violence. Told over a period of many years stretching from the American Civil War through the 1920s,... Wikipedia